Habits to be happy and successful

  1. Be non judgmental.

Don’t judge someone. Everyone has the right to have opposite opinions and perceptions. Once you develop this, only then you can understand the others’ point of views. So stop judging!

  1. Be kind.

If you want to be happy, be kind. That is my philosophy of achieving true happiness. Once you have formed that deep tenderness in your heart, you would realize true sense of joy. So be kind to everyone, even your enemies for that matter.

  1. Be humorous.

Humor is something which is very important to have. Being funny brings smile and laughter to other people. When you bring laughter in other peoples’ lives, you bring laughter in your life. So try and be amusing and in a good way!

  1. Be hardworking.

If you have got something to achieve, an aim, an object, give your best shot! Once you give your 100%, even if you fail, which is very unlikely, you would still be proud of yourself.

  1. Be playful.

Don’t take everything seriously! There is more to life than that! Be like a kid and enjoy life. Do adventures, experience things, live life!

  1. Be creative.

See problems in a different way. You don’t have to take them as problems. Take them as challenges. And there are always different solutions to a problem. So bring that creativity into your life and think differently.

  1. Be humble.

Admit your mistakes and realize that you are just a human being. If you have done something wrong, apologize. Don’t be rude or arrogant.

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How to live the “unpredictable” life?

When you look at your surroundings and really ponder over it, you would come up with a conclusion that of all the things, the most unpredictable, uncertain, is life itself. You never know if you are going to stay alive the next year or the next month or the next day, so and so that you can’t be certain about your chances of being alive the next very moment! A sudden car accident, an unanticipated heart attack or an unexpected fall on the head might be the cause of your death. We never exactly know what might happen. Although, we can predict what we are going to do the next day or week, we might have plans for the next year but those are just our forethoughts, in reality we are as uncertain as anyone could be. Although, not be mistaken, I am a big supporter of future planning, I think its very necessary that we plan ahead of whatever we have in mind and not include ourselves in the, “Lets see what happens” category of people. But, just to give you an idea of the uncertainty of life, according to a statistics, approximately 200,000 athletes die of sudden deaths and in the US, two thirds occur in football and basketball. I am talking about the healthiest of our populations here. Sudden cardiac death in the US (population 300 million) is estimated to occur 180,000 – 250,000 times per year.

So if life is so unpredictable, so unforeseeable, what to do about it?

  1. Find your passion.

What is that one thing that you think you are made for and do it! Don’t set out to do something that you are not passionate about. Find something to which you can say out loud, “WOW! This is what I want to do!” If it’s really hard for you to find that thing, keep on working your butt off until you have found it. Once you have discovered that passion, follow it and be master in it. You see, if you are not doing what you would have liked to do, then you are not living, really. To me and to many others, you are dead already. So set out for what you always wanted to do and give your whole time and energy to it. Life is much more than a 9-5 job!

  1. Be kind.

Don’t hold grudges against anyone. If you have got a situation where it is very difficult for you to forgive someone, come up with a slightest of an excuse and forgive him/her. Try to be kind and affectionate to everyone. And this goes especially to your family-parents, siblings and close friends. Life is too short to be spent resenting someone. I am going to tell you a short story of one of my friends. This friend of mine didn’t have the greatest of relationships with his father. He had spent most of his life hating him; from the day he was a teenage to his adolescents. Reason? He thought his father was being unkind and mean to him. Until recently when one day, he got the news of his death. Oh boy, you wouldn’t want to see such a sight, he cried and cried until his eyes were swollen and his tears were dried up. During the whole time, he was uttering but one thing, “I wish I had made up with him!”

  1. Learn from your mistakes.

As human beings, we are bound to make mistakes and blunders, sometimes we may repeat them, but the sensible thing to do is to learn from them. Take a lesson from your faults and promise yourself not to repeat them again. If you have fought with someone and it is your fault, go and apologize! Don’t wait for the right moment to come along, that is not ever going to happen. You have to make the move and it is better there and then. And please, please! Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from your failures and move on.

  1. Have fun!

In the end, life is too short and too unpredictable to be serious all the time. It is wise to have fun and enjoy every moment of it. Go out, have fun, sit on rides, go to adventures, do things, which you were always scared to do. This is life and our job is to have fun!

A mother who is ready to let go of her child

As you know about the war that is going on in Syria, which has prompted thousands of people to leave their country, in order to survive for their lives. Recently I came across an interview of a Syrian mother who is part of the many refugees stuck in the borders between Serbia and Hungary. These refugees who are on high-rise, are trying to reach Germany to start a new life but are being held back by the authorities in Hungary. “Anyone passing its borders illegally, is to face jail or sent back to their country”, are the orders from the Hungarian police. Consequently, for more than a week, they have been living, literally, in the middle of the road.

Ms. AlSayed, the Syrian mother, says that she has been travelling for 10 days with her 6 year old daughter, Alma, passing through Turkey and Greece. She, along with hundreds of other fugitives have a simple demand that they be allowed to pass through the Hungarian border, from where they can go to Germany where they see a bright future for themselves. Of course, that seems far away from happening.

In the interview, the mother makes an appeal to the authorities that if they (the Hungarian officials) don’t want to allow them to pass through its territory, she is ready to hand over her daughter to them on a condition that, that she will be sent to Germany or any other safer place. She says in a determined tone that for the sake of her child’s safety, she is ready to be separated from her. In her very own words, “Take my kid (pointing to her child) and put her in Germany or any other safer place.” She states that she doesn’t want a peaceful life for herself, as is her right to do so but for her daughter.

After watching her interview, it lead me thinking, “Where has humanity come down to? Since when people who are just like you and me, have had to demand for a life where they can have a guarantee that there isn’t going to be an explosion in the next hour or the next day? Has the world crumbled so much that the assurance of granting a war-free life has become something of an obscure? Where are the authorities now that label themselves as the so-called guardians of human rights?

I want to bring into the discussion now, an occurence that took place last week, in Irving, Texas, the Ahmed-clock incident. For those of you who don’t know about it, it went like this. A 14-year-old boy, Ahmed Mohamed went to school on Monday of the last week to show his teacher his experimental product, which he had made at home. Teacher upon seeing the product mistook it for a bomb. And as a result, the school officials notified the police and Ahmed was taken in to custody. He was interrogated for about one and a half hour before the police were convinced that it was a clock and not a bomb and he was discharged. The incident went viral in the media and many high profile people showed their support to Ahmed. Those prominent people included Mr. Obama, Mark Zuckerberg and Mrs. Clinton.

To be honest, I welcome Mr. Obama’s step of addressing the boy and praising him for his experimental product and inviting him to the white house. I also would like to praise Mr. Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook and Mrs. Clinton here, who also showed their support to the 14-year-old kid. I think it was much needed for such esteemed people to show their encouragement to the boy and I hope they continue to do so in the future as well.

But I also have some questions here that I want to put forward. Why are we so quiet on a similar situation, wait a minute, calling it a similar situation would not be fair to the 14 millions of innocent kids who are suffering from wars and for years now, in Syria, Iraq and Afghanistan. The war, which is going on in Iraq and Afghanistan for more than a decade now and 5 years since it has started in Syria, millions and millions of children have suffered and who are still suffering to this very day. What is their fault for the miserable life that we have given to them? Sure they had nothing to do with the war, then why are they being tormented, tortured and brutalized every second of every minute and every minute of every hour and every hour of every day?

In the end, I just want to say this, “Lets unite in helping eradicate terrorism from its roots, lets join our hands in helping those millions of children who are living in misery, lets collaborate in helping those refugees who just wants to live in peace and has nothing to do with war, lets together, make a world where living in harmony is not something of an obscure, but a reality.

My reaction to Roger Federer’s defeat in the US OPEN 2015 final

I couldn’t watch the final of the US OPEN because I live in Dubai and obviously the timings vary between the two countries. To give you an idea, 9pm of Newyork means 1am of Dubai. Obviously I waited until 1 for the match to start and 1 hour more because there was a delay due to the weather. As there was no prospect of the match getting under way soon, I slept. Upon waking up, without doing anything, still in bed, I opened up the tennis.com website on my iPhone to see the result. As the page appeared, my eyes were wide open at seeing the face of Djokovic with the trophy. Obviously as you might know by now, I am a Roger fan. So it hurt me obviously because I had my heart for Federer to win the trophy. But Roger losing was one thing that saddened me but more so was the belief that I had in him to clinch the trophy of a Grand Slam this time. It wasn’t just a belief but my sixth sense that constantly kept telling me that he would surely win this one, about which I have written in my previous blog. I had such a strong gut feeling after his win against Isner that I had already started celebrating way before the quarterfinals has begun. But that wasn’t to be. So this loss has obviously saddened and angered me, so much so that I didn’t feel like talking much that day. I didn’t feel like watching highlights right away, as I knew the result .It was a disappointment, no doubt. So at the end of that day, when the exasperation and sorrow had lessened a bit, I had the courage to watch the highlights. I even watched the presentation trophy afterwards, talk about courage! As I had my eyes and ears fixed to Roger’s reaction and his talk at the ceremony, to be honest it gave me such a comfort that no Roger fan or journalist could have given. His short announcement “ I will see you guys next year” and the way he said it, reassuring us that he was more than ever determined, was more than enough to give me a huge relief. That is why I along with millions of my comrades been following him from years and will continue to do so till the day he says goodbye to the sport.

Funny near death experience

Alright! So as you know the title name, NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCE, you may already be giggling within yourselves, right? I know, and it is true, remind yourself of one of your friends, with whom you were sharing stories one day and he started like “dude, you won’t believe me what happened that day, i nearly died.” And amid his narration of the story his face expression changing to a funny, still frightening one, and at that very moment, you realise you can’t control your chuckling anymore and you burst out laughing! So don’t need to control your laughs, you FOLKERS! I hope whatever i had to go through that day, one day you may also experience the same thing! huh!

So what happened was, i went to this adventurous park full of weird, lizard, crocodile, dragon, you name it, all these scary animal-shaped rides. Me and my friend were laughing our asses off seeing the expressions on the faces of those riders which were full of horror, their red faces changing to the most yellowish you could think of as they were about to experience the most freakish of all the rides. Then all of a sudden this bitch friend of mine, i dunno what on earth happened to him that he couldn’t enjoy the pleasant moment and shouted in excitement, “I am going in that ride right now and you are coming along!” And at that very moment my laughing at those poor riders which i thought would cause my intestines to come out of my body, had converted to the very WTF?!! expression you could ever imagine. I was like dude, are you f****ng serious? Instantly i refused to go along. In his reply, this buddy of mine didn’t do nothing, nothing he said or did but…..but gave me such an annoying stare that i knew that the consequences of going in in that ride were bad but the aftermath of my refusal would be worse. So half-heartedly i agreed and went along with him.

As we settled down into our seats and fastened our seat belts, i looked around and realised, the ride was full and that it could go off any moment. That was when i closed my eyes and talked or at least tried to talk to god for the very first time, it went off like this, “hey god, i hope you are doing well, but to be honest, i m in a spot of bother here as you can see, i know we haven’t communicated with each other for a long time, but help your poor creature out here won’t you?( Now obviously i was feeling a little guilty at that moment, of course i didn’t show that to god, you see, you have to be assertive as not to be denied of your request, specially to god. But the irony was that god knew all the stuff! He knew that i was the guilty one, that i was contacting him after a while and that too when i was in trouble. So i further pushed for my plea and started shouting “i am sorry, i am sorry, i am sorry, it won’t happen again!” My friend and the others in our row seat upon hearing my cry for help had the time of their lives, their laughing and chuckling and their irritating consolation added only anger to my already frightened situation. We were in the middle of this so called adventure, when suddenly the ride stopped and i realised that my position was up sided down, i could see the vague images of the people down there, shouting and laughing to their folks, all the while i was cursing the in-charge of the ride, “How could you be so heartless??” I started screaming and forcefully closed my eyes, when i realised i was nearing my death. And then i had a go at the god, “Ok god, i guess you are insisting that we meet each other soon, obviously you can’t wait a little longer, I’m just 21! Come on! I am not even married ;( Help me, would you?! FOR YOUR SAKE!” Then downward the ride went and stopped. “God finally listened to my cry for help,” i thought. Only upon then, everybody including this monster friend of mine shouted, “once more, once more!” My reaction to those demons was “Oh Yeh? Bitches! you can enjoy as long as you want, but i am off from here.” Still in trauma, i somehow managed to get off from there and swore in my heart if i ever went even close to that devil of a thing.