How to live the “unpredictable” life?

When you look at your surroundings and really ponder over it, you would come up with a conclusion that of all the things, the most unpredictable, uncertain, is life itself. You never know if you are going to stay alive the next year or the next month or the next day, so and so that you can’t be certain about your chances of being alive the next very moment! A sudden car accident, an unanticipated heart attack or an unexpected fall on the head might be the cause of your death. We never exactly know what might happen. Although, we can predict what we are going to do the next day or week, we might have plans for the next year but those are just our forethoughts, in reality we are as uncertain as anyone could be. Although, not be mistaken, I am a big supporter of future planning, I think its very necessary that we plan ahead of whatever we have in mind and not include ourselves in the, “Lets see what happens” category of people. But, just to give you an idea of the uncertainty of life, according to a statistics, approximately 200,000 athletes die of sudden deaths and in the US, two thirds occur in football and basketball. I am talking about the healthiest of our populations here. Sudden cardiac death in the US (population 300 million) is estimated to occur 180,000 – 250,000 times per year.

So if life is so unpredictable, so unforeseeable, what to do about it?

  1. Find your passion.

What is that one thing that you think you are made for and do it! Don’t set out to do something that you are not passionate about. Find something to which you can say out loud, “WOW! This is what I want to do!” If it’s really hard for you to find that thing, keep on working your butt off until you have found it. Once you have discovered that passion, follow it and be master in it. You see, if you are not doing what you would have liked to do, then you are not living, really. To me and to many others, you are dead already. So set out for what you always wanted to do and give your whole time and energy to it. Life is much more than a 9-5 job!

  1. Be kind.

Don’t hold grudges against anyone. If you have got a situation where it is very difficult for you to forgive someone, come up with a slightest of an excuse and forgive him/her. Try to be kind and affectionate to everyone. And this goes especially to your family-parents, siblings and close friends. Life is too short to be spent resenting someone. I am going to tell you a short story of one of my friends. This friend of mine didn’t have the greatest of relationships with his father. He had spent most of his life hating him; from the day he was a teenage to his adolescents. Reason? He thought his father was being unkind and mean to him. Until recently when one day, he got the news of his death. Oh boy, you wouldn’t want to see such a sight, he cried and cried until his eyes were swollen and his tears were dried up. During the whole time, he was uttering but one thing, “I wish I had made up with him!”

  1. Learn from your mistakes.

As human beings, we are bound to make mistakes and blunders, sometimes we may repeat them, but the sensible thing to do is to learn from them. Take a lesson from your faults and promise yourself not to repeat them again. If you have fought with someone and it is your fault, go and apologize! Don’t wait for the right moment to come along, that is not ever going to happen. You have to make the move and it is better there and then. And please, please! Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from your failures and move on.

  1. Have fun!

In the end, life is too short and too unpredictable to be serious all the time. It is wise to have fun and enjoy every moment of it. Go out, have fun, sit on rides, go to adventures, do things, which you were always scared to do. This is life and our job is to have fun!

How to lose or maintain weight?

The followings are some of the statistics on obesity and overweight from National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, 2009–2010 in the U.S.

  • More than 2 in 3 adults are considered to be overweight or obese.
  • More than 1 in 3 adults are considered to be obese.
  • More than 1 in 20 adults are considered to have extreme obesity.
  • About one-third of children and adolescents ages 6 to 19 are considered to be overweigh or obese.
  • More than 1 in 6 children and adolescents ages 6 to 19 are considered to be obese.           Overweight refers to an excess amount of body weight that may come from muscles, bone, fat, and water. Obesity refers to an excess amount of body fat

As you know the name of the topic, let me tell you that the amount of discussions on losing or maintaining weights is countless. There are endless and all sorts of formulas and technics that you can find everywhere and apply them to yourselves. You can find them on Google, health magazines, T.V commercials, books, articles and etc., every source providing their own knowledge and expertise on weight issues. And similarly I have gone through most of that stuff trying to figure out the solutions for tackling obesity or weight maintaining. Most of the stuff talked about what diet to follow or the amount of exercises to do, which slimming pills to take or how minimizing on carbs is a good idea and all that stuff. And the conclusion that I came up with is that all these different technics on losing or maintaining weight is a good strategy and if followed the right way and on consistent basis does help to prevent obesity. But somewhere along the line I realized that not everyone can do that, right? For many of us it can be very demanding. Yes they are very logical and befitting but not everyone has the energy and the time to implement them. This is the reason that I tried to come up with ways that are easy for anyone to follow without being all stressed out.

1.Forget about it.

The number one thing to do is free your mind of everything that has do with losing weight. Take it out of your mind that you want to lose weight or you are on a diet. The reason I m asking you to do that is if you are thinking about it, you just can’t do it. Tell me one thing that you did when you were stressed out. It happens with many of us. How many people do you know that lost a considerable amount of weight thinking about it? On the contrary, tell me the various instances when people told you that they have lost substantial weight that they can’t even remember how. So no.1 empty your mind.

  1. Eat whatever you like but in standard amount.

It is very important to eat anything you like and please I beg you, don’t follow a strict diet. Don’t think that you can eat certain things and not others. You are allowed to eat anything. This is what exactly happens when most of the time we are on a strict diet with specific choices and after a week or so it gets burdensome. And we start consuming ample amount of food, which we never thought of even touching. So no.2 eat whatever you like! But in average amount.

  1. Involve yourself in a physical activity regularly.

This is as essential as anything, the movement of the body that requires energy expenditure is a must. Here is a thought, if you are a lazy kind of guy like me, then do something that you like. It is not necessary that you have to run everyday for 30 min or do swimming or cycling. You could do anything, be it playing tennis, basketball or badminton. And you don’t have to do that for hours and hours. 30min to 1hr is enough. However, there is a small condition to it. Whatever you do, it should make you sweat or make you breath faster. And you can only do that consistently if you are doing what you like.

If you think about it, they are very easy to follow and every one of us can put these steps into effect. Although I d suggest beforehand not to expect any immediate results. But if you adopt them, they can do wonders for you in the long term, not only in helping you lose weight but maintaining it and leading a healthier and stress-less life.

How to develop the habit of reading?

What can reading do to you? Well, it can do lots of stuff, from teaching you things beyond your horizons to reducing your anxieties. Reading, it teaches you different cultures, different religions, and politics of different regions. Reading, it assists you in times of utter confusion, brings you joy and satisfaction and helps you in communication. Reading, it improves your concentration, enables your brain to stay active and makes you consider things from different perspectives. And above all, reading, it gives you knowledge that no one can take it away from you.

Reading is one of those healthy habits, which is very difficult to form and do on consistent basis. It is similar as going to gym for instance or jogging or taking dog for a walk. You can see the apparent benefits of these practices but you don’t do them or do them but occasionally. The followings are some of the steps that we can take towards developing the practice of reading.

  1. The first thing to do is to consider all the benefits and rewards of reading of which some are mentioned above. You see, once you take into account all the merits of reading, can you think of really going in to it. When you are not aware of its benefits or the benefits of anything for that matter, you don’t do that thing. You do things when you see advantages in them. What is my benefit of studying for exams? In what ways can exercise help me? Similarly how can reading benefit me? Once you answer this question, you are good to go.
  1. Second thing you want to do is to begin with small versions of reading, such as articles, short essays or stories, blogs, magazines, etc. This was a significant factor at least when i think of myself. What this did to me was that it persuaded me to go through whole portions of the work without sensing quitting. On the contrary if we start off with an extensive 300-page book, more often than not, we put it aside after having read only few pages. Sometimes we abandon it in the middle of the first page! Believe me, it happens. Also what those small articles and stories do is, they give you a sense of satisfaction of having read a whole story or a piece of information and gradually prepares you for long-lasting readings.
  1. After considering and acknowledging all the advantages of reading and having gone through number of articles and short stories for few days or weeks, you develop a sense of reading a lengthy book. If you still haven’t, don’t be concerned at all and keep on going with what you have been doing. The important thing is to stay persistent. Eventually a time comes and believe me it does come, when you want to pick up and lose yourself in “Harry Potter” or “Hamlet” or “In Search of Lost Time” or “War and Peace,” books, that once you dared not to touch.

How to decrease stress?

Stress, anxiety, trauma, sounds familiar? Indeed! On a broad base, there are two types of stresses. Minor stress, which are the everyday stresses, e.g being late to a meeting, small arguments with colleague or friends, having to work for longer hours, missing an appointment and etc, etc. The second one is the major stress. This has to do with longterm issues and can have devastating effects on us. For e.g. stress of a divorce, death of a close person, being fired from the job, major illness etc. So what to do when faced with such situations? The following are some of the ways that can help us reduce our anxieties.

  1. Confront them.
    We have to deal with the minor stresses almost on daily basis and we can’t get away from major ones either, although they don’t occur as frequently as the minor ones. So indeed if we have to face these situations, why not confront them in a sensible manner? Why do we have to lose our heads over them? Why can’t we take these situations as they are? Why do we have to be so deeply tensed about them and let them ruin our lives? The rational way to behave when moments of stress knocks your door, is to let them enter, talk to them in details and in a reasonable way. Open up your mind to the whole conversation. Ask questions such as what happened? How did that happen? What are the possible reasons? What is my next step? Unless you do that, you won’t be able to understand the causes of your stress, second, you won’t be in a position to take the next logical step because you weren’t going right about it in the first place. Confrontation should be our priority when faced with moments of despair.

2. Take them as a challenge.
We are faced with all sorts of challenges in our lives. We face challenges of getting good grades, challenges of doing a good job in office, of being a responsible parent, of being healthy and etc. So if you are ready to take those situations as challenges, why shouldn’t you consider “stress” just another battle too? A battle that you wanna have a go at and give your best.

3. Be positive.
You know when we are distressed or anxious, it is not just because of the problems that we are facing but the amount of negativity that we have accumulated in us. “Oh, what is going to happen if i went to work now, is my boss going to fire me? Is he really going to humiliate me in front of all my co-workers? It is all my fault, how couldn’t i get up by the alarm clock? These are the sort of negative thoughts that you want to refrain from. Not only just because they are bad for your health but they are useless, really. How could you compile such a big pile of negative thoughts when you don’t really know what’s going to happen? What’s done is done, you can’t do nothing about it. Sensible approach is to stay positive and hope for the best.