Why is it important to use your words wisely?

Well, I am no expert in the field to talk about how we should communicate with each other. That being said, I recently came across a talk given by a man who was unable to interact with others for more than a decade! Yes, that’s true. He had developed a brain infection at the age of 12, which prevented him from all means of communication. He was like a living body and nothing else, taken as an infant who is just to be fed. I am not going to go into the details of his story, as I will provide you with the link so that you can listen to his whole narrative in his own words. I just want to let you know my feelings and what we all can learn from his story. What I took away from the talk was the importance of communicating with people. You know, hearing his tale of being unable to express feelings, emotions or simply talking to other people as a sign of a normal human being, left me speechless. It hit me so much so that I have taken a pledge that next time I communicate with someone, specially with my loved ones I will think twice before I utter words out of my mouth. I will not say something, which in normal circumstances would look inappropriate or unkind, words that could hurt them. You know, “words,” which often times we take them so easily for granted could shatter someone’s life and at the same time build them. It could destroy years of relationship or it could be the basis of the beginning of a new one. Therefore, I will use my words wisely! Would you?

The inspirational talk:

How to live the “unpredictable” life?

When you look at your surroundings and really ponder over it, you would come up with a conclusion that of all the things, the most unpredictable, uncertain, is life itself. You never know if you are going to stay alive the next year or the next month or the next day, so and so that you can’t be certain about your chances of being alive the next very moment! A sudden car accident, an unanticipated heart attack or an unexpected fall on the head might be the cause of your death. We never exactly know what might happen. Although, we can predict what we are going to do the next day or week, we might have plans for the next year but those are just our forethoughts, in reality we are as uncertain as anyone could be. Although, not be mistaken, I am a big supporter of future planning, I think its very necessary that we plan ahead of whatever we have in mind and not include ourselves in the, “Lets see what happens” category of people. But, just to give you an idea of the uncertainty of life, according to a statistics, approximately 200,000 athletes die of sudden deaths and in the US, two thirds occur in football and basketball. I am talking about the healthiest of our populations here. Sudden cardiac death in the US (population 300 million) is estimated to occur 180,000 – 250,000 times per year.

So if life is so unpredictable, so unforeseeable, what to do about it?

  1. Find your passion.

What is that one thing that you think you are made for and do it! Don’t set out to do something that you are not passionate about. Find something to which you can say out loud, “WOW! This is what I want to do!” If it’s really hard for you to find that thing, keep on working your butt off until you have found it. Once you have discovered that passion, follow it and be master in it. You see, if you are not doing what you would have liked to do, then you are not living, really. To me and to many others, you are dead already. So set out for what you always wanted to do and give your whole time and energy to it. Life is much more than a 9-5 job!

  1. Be kind.

Don’t hold grudges against anyone. If you have got a situation where it is very difficult for you to forgive someone, come up with a slightest of an excuse and forgive him/her. Try to be kind and affectionate to everyone. And this goes especially to your family-parents, siblings and close friends. Life is too short to be spent resenting someone. I am going to tell you a short story of one of my friends. This friend of mine didn’t have the greatest of relationships with his father. He had spent most of his life hating him; from the day he was a teenage to his adolescents. Reason? He thought his father was being unkind and mean to him. Until recently when one day, he got the news of his death. Oh boy, you wouldn’t want to see such a sight, he cried and cried until his eyes were swollen and his tears were dried up. During the whole time, he was uttering but one thing, “I wish I had made up with him!”

  1. Learn from your mistakes.

As human beings, we are bound to make mistakes and blunders, sometimes we may repeat them, but the sensible thing to do is to learn from them. Take a lesson from your faults and promise yourself not to repeat them again. If you have fought with someone and it is your fault, go and apologize! Don’t wait for the right moment to come along, that is not ever going to happen. You have to make the move and it is better there and then. And please, please! Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from your failures and move on.

  1. Have fun!

In the end, life is too short and too unpredictable to be serious all the time. It is wise to have fun and enjoy every moment of it. Go out, have fun, sit on rides, go to adventures, do things, which you were always scared to do. This is life and our job is to have fun!

How to be inspirational to others? Learn from Pope Francis

I recently came across an article, which is written, on Pope Francis’ leadership style. I personally found it intriguing and couldn’t help but share with you. The Forbes article, written by Carmine Gallo talks about what makes Francis an inspiring, uplifting, and an encouraging figure. If anyone wants people to listen to him or her and aspires to be an inspiration to others, the following script is a must read.

There you go:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/carminegallo/2015/09/21/pope-francis-four-rules-for-reaching-hearts-and-minds/